Sometimes life throws you into certain situations which make you realize the futility of the rat race that we are all part of, willingly or unwillingly, and how little the achievement of our materialistic goals mean. You begin to question what really matters to you and whether everything you wanted till now is really what makes you happy.
Thinking about death or talking about it is never easy for most of us. However, we all know that it is a certainty. A recent event in my life that shook me to my very core and got me thinking along those lines also made me think if my life has been one worth being remembered either by my or those who know me. Other than the familial ties which one obviously cannot shirk off, at least IMHO, am I someone who would be remembered by others? And if so, then what would I be remembered for? And what would I want to be remembered for?
If there could be a list for this kind, then the following would more or less be it for me.
1. First things first, would my family remember me as having been a good son, a good husband, a good father, a good brother and so on? Not just because they are family but because they mean it?
2. Have I been a good friend? Do my friends think so? Have I let time and distance take them away from me? Have I been there for them in their happy times and even more so, in their trying and sad times? How many close friends do I have?
3. Will my colleagues think of me as someone who made a mark at work and whose contribution to their profiles and the team and organization at large would be missed? Will I only be remembered for my work or have some of my human qualities had an effect with people at work?
4. Am I a generous person? Did my generosity remain only within me or was I able to reach out with it and make a difference by sharing not only my worldly possessions but also of my heart?
5. Did I follow my passions and make the most of what they had to offer? I am a voracious reader and love books. Did that make me a better person?
6. Did my education and limited knowledge of the world at large show up when it was needed the most?
7. Was I a compassionate person? But for a few people, compassion is a quality that needs to be inculcated over your entire lifetime because it needs one to empathize with other people who may not be related to you but leaves the receiver full of your love and joy.
8. Was I open-minded or judgemental in my outlook? Did I hurt people knowingly or unknowingly? Are there some people who I would want to apologise to or mend rifts with?
9. Was I the kind of person who placed money above people and relationships? Did I burn bridges with some people in this manner?
10. Lastly, would I be remembered as a nice person, someone who could bring happiness and joy to people, someone who could be depended on come what may, someone they could look back and think about with a smile? Would I be missed?
Too many thoughts crowding my mind at present, haphazardly at best. I can only hope that with some time, these will resolve into something that helps me become a better person and someone who leaves behind memories worthy of being remembered with love.
Thinking about death or talking about it is never easy for most of us. However, we all know that it is a certainty. A recent event in my life that shook me to my very core and got me thinking along those lines also made me think if my life has been one worth being remembered either by my or those who know me. Other than the familial ties which one obviously cannot shirk off, at least IMHO, am I someone who would be remembered by others? And if so, then what would I be remembered for? And what would I want to be remembered for?
If there could be a list for this kind, then the following would more or less be it for me.
1. First things first, would my family remember me as having been a good son, a good husband, a good father, a good brother and so on? Not just because they are family but because they mean it?
2. Have I been a good friend? Do my friends think so? Have I let time and distance take them away from me? Have I been there for them in their happy times and even more so, in their trying and sad times? How many close friends do I have?
3. Will my colleagues think of me as someone who made a mark at work and whose contribution to their profiles and the team and organization at large would be missed? Will I only be remembered for my work or have some of my human qualities had an effect with people at work?
4. Am I a generous person? Did my generosity remain only within me or was I able to reach out with it and make a difference by sharing not only my worldly possessions but also of my heart?
5. Did I follow my passions and make the most of what they had to offer? I am a voracious reader and love books. Did that make me a better person?
6. Did my education and limited knowledge of the world at large show up when it was needed the most?
7. Was I a compassionate person? But for a few people, compassion is a quality that needs to be inculcated over your entire lifetime because it needs one to empathize with other people who may not be related to you but leaves the receiver full of your love and joy.
8. Was I open-minded or judgemental in my outlook? Did I hurt people knowingly or unknowingly? Are there some people who I would want to apologise to or mend rifts with?
9. Was I the kind of person who placed money above people and relationships? Did I burn bridges with some people in this manner?
10. Lastly, would I be remembered as a nice person, someone who could bring happiness and joy to people, someone who could be depended on come what may, someone they could look back and think about with a smile? Would I be missed?
Too many thoughts crowding my mind at present, haphazardly at best. I can only hope that with some time, these will resolve into something that helps me become a better person and someone who leaves behind memories worthy of being remembered with love.
7 comments:
Beautifully put questions that every man should answer for himself. If you had put check boxes for readers, I would have put a ✔️ to most questions other than a few only family is better placed to answer...one of your Best Sachin...keep writing.
Thanks so much, Sibesh sir! Means a lot coming from you.
From whatever little we have interacted and from what I've heard about you from others, you my friend, are an exceptional human being. One of those RARE ones. Stay blessed and happy and peaceful forever!
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm privileged to know you.
We should be iterating these questions to us time and again. Usualy we tend to ignore little things in life that bring us joy for materil pursuits.beautifully put together. keep wriring
Thanks Kavita! Completely agree and plan to follow that as much as I can.
Reading this blog made me realized that you've become one of my most favorite persons that I have not met. I don't think that I even deserve to be a friend.
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